Today's blog is a bit of a debate! Should you have sex on your wedding night? many couples feel pressured into having sex but what do you think?
If you don’t sleep together on your wedding night, are you normal? (And yes, sleep means sex).
It used to be that wedding night sex (consummation) was a major part of the marriage act.
The sex didn’t have to be fun. This was the special act on the night of the day when you were officially made husband and wife. Sex was the making, so to speak.
But that was then. Nowadays, sex plays a very different role. We enjoy sex. We can have sex outside of wedlock. We can enjoy sex, have sex, and not have to worry about who or what people think!
So for the most part, sex on the wedding night isn’t so much a need as a want. You could not do it, and not be any less married than if you had. You may actually be too tired to have sex, especially as wedding days are only getting bigger and bigger. So, by not having sex, does that mean you start of on the wrong foot?
Not necessarily. But you have to make sure you and your partner are on the very same page. There cannot be any room for misconception. You’re only supposed to get married once. You’re only supposed to have the wedding night. Life is otherwise full of second chances, Marriage is the opposite – in a sense, it’s a fantasy. That’s what makes it special. And even if we know the statistics, even if we know life happens and things change, we still walk down aisles hoping and expecting and dreaming about the notion of one-time-only grandeur. And every step is marked by the mantra ‘no regrets’.
Would you regret not sleeping with your dearly beloved the night of your official binding?
Is that reason enough to do it?
Or, if you’re too tired, or too drunk, or too overcome with expectation, is it better just to be honest and say, ‘Not tonight, my darling, for even if this is our first, it certainly won’t be our last’.
Should you make love on the night you make your vows for the sake of the symbol if nothing else? Or is such an idea antiquated and outrageous – futures aren’t ruined by one night alone.
Let us know your thoughts !
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